2019 in Snapshots

This one is purely for me. A 2019 year in review:


January


February


March


April


May


June


July


August


September


October


November


December


The January First Song & Dance

Holy moley.

Life really knows how to kick you when youโ€™re down, doesnโ€™t it? I think this has been the most difficult, most confusing, most painful month of my entire life. But you know what?

December is almost over, thank God.

Iโ€™ve never wanted to be one of those people that was like โ€œStart the new year fresh!โ€ I donโ€™t know why though, because deep down Iโ€™ve always been this person.

  1. I love fresh starts.
  2. I love round numbers.
  3. I try to go into every day with a clean slate, every week with a new focus, and every month with a new goal.

So why do I hate on the โ€œnew year – new meโ€ trend every year? Am I so hipster that I hate it just because itโ€™s popular? Possibly.

I think it also makes me sad, and I don’t like being sad. People are so motivated for JANUARY FIRST and ready to start on JANUARY FIRST and excited for JANUARY FIRST and then the other 364 days of the new year are neglected. If we truly want to have a โ€œnew year – new meโ€ mindset, then we should all be restarting our 365 day year every single morning.

If we all treated every day like it was JANUARY FIRST I guarantee we would see:

    • More kindness and generosity
    • Gyms packed with motivated people reaching their goals
    • Coffee shops filled with avid readers
    • People cooking themselves and their families healthier meals
    • More bad habits kicked
    • Less money unwisely spent
    • Overall more happiness all around

…and all the other popular new yearโ€™s resolutions that people keep for JANUARY FIRST and then forget about because it too quickly becomes January second.

So, I know I have winter goals that Iโ€™m chipping away at (badly, might I add; I told you it’s been a horrible month), but I do have one New Yearโ€™s goal:

I do not want to make any New Yearโ€™s goals.

I want to have goals for every season, every month, every week, and every day, and I donโ€™t want them to be limited by waiting for the big sparkly ball to drop at midnight. I think the world would be a better place if every day were New Yearโ€™s day.

If anyone reading this has had as shitty of a month as I have, Iโ€™m so sorry. Whatever youโ€™re going through: Iโ€™m sorry and that sucks. Try to remember that every storm runs out of rain. (Isnโ€™t that a country song? I think thatโ€™s a country song.)

And thatโ€™s my two cents. See you next year!

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I gave myself bangs, guys. That’s how emotionally unstable December 2019 has made me. And yes, I do regret them. Thank you for asking. *sigh*

Day 28/90: How to Re-Set

Hey, hi, hello, internet.

Being an adult is weirdโ€ฆ One moment youโ€™re achieving your goals, blogging every day, hitting the gym, then the next moment your grandmother diesโ€ฆ

My grandmother passed away last Friday so Iโ€™ve been on a life-hiatus for the last week. When we lived in Wisconsin, we would drive to Kentucky to visit my Mamaw and Papaw every Thanksgiving. I fully credit Mamaw with my love of nature. Me being the true born city girl that I am, I never really did anything outsideโ€ฆ until Thanksgiving. Mamaw would take me four-wheeling into the mountains; we walked waded in the creek for miles collecting rocks (I still collect rocks and minerals btw); we would play in the barn with the newest animals she had or walking across the plank between the two lofts; and she would sing while I played my violin on the porch (very badly as a 5th grader, but she didnโ€™t care). She was 84 but truly acted like she was 14, in the best way. Iโ€™ll never look at Kentucky mountain or valley again without seeing her there.

Pardon the crass transition

Without surprise, Iโ€™ve fallen off the wagon as far as fitness and health goes for the past week, so I thought this would be a good time to talk about how I re-set and kick my butt back into gear.


 

How to Re-Set Your Goals

 

#1   Re-evaluate your goals

People โ€œmess upโ€ on their goals for a multitude of different reasons, most of them not nearly as dramatic as death, but regardless of the reason you need to first determine if it is a you-problem or a goal-problem.

A lot of the time itโ€™s a you-problem (that sounds harsh but stay with me) where youโ€™ve either lost motivation, or been a little too lax on yourself, or maybe itโ€™s the holidayโ€™s and you let yourself indulge, or maybe heavy, adult things smacked you in the face like they did me. All of those scenarios can be summed up by saying:

life happens. And thatโ€™s okay!

However, sometimes itโ€™s a goal-problem. Maybe you got injured because your workouts were too intense, or maybe youโ€™re exhausted from too few calories, or maybe youโ€™re truly burnt out from being TOO strict on yourself. You have to be honest with yourself and adjust if your goals are too much to handle all at once.

#2   Let yourself change your mind!

If you need to adjust your goals, allow yourself to do so. This was going to be lumped in with the โ€œre-evaluateโ€ part, but I thought it was worth itโ€™s own bullet point!

People (me, Iโ€™m people) get so stuck in their ways sometimes and donโ€™t allow themselves to change their mind. Donโ€™t set yourself up for failure! Adjust your goals so that they are still challenging but attainable.

#3   Be very strict for the first few days, but donโ€™t overcompensate.

Again with the setting yourself up for failure; donโ€™t overcompensate! Do what you would normally do to chug along towards your goals.

Think about it this way, if you push yourself too hard during your re-set youโ€™re more likely to fail again, and then youโ€™ll have to re-set again, and if you overcompensate again then you’ll be more likely to fail again, and then you’ll have to re-set againโ€ฆ You see what I mean? So start fresh. Move on. You canโ€™t change anything youโ€™ve already done, so do better this time around.

#4   Stay positive.

This is probably the most important part of a re-set for any goals. Your mindset can make all the difference when it comes to starting over.

Keep in mind:

  • Youโ€™ll bounce back quicker than before
  • Youโ€™ve already done this part successfully once, you can do it again
  • Take it day by day.
  • Actually, take it decision by decision.
    • If someone offers you a Christmas cookie and you only get those cookies at Christmas and you really want that cookieโ€ฆ Eat the cookie. But then the very next decision make sure itโ€™s a good decision. That will set you back on track.

 

No matter what your goals may be or why you need a goal re-set right now, I hope this blog hits the right notes for you.

Does anyone have any other tips and tricks? Motivation? Iโ€™ll take it all: Questions, suggestions, criticism, concerns, send them my way please and thank you. I will be starting my re-set tomorrow. The day before Christmas Eve. Because I am a masochistic idiot.

Wish me luck.

Okkkkaaayyyyy bye!

Mamaw

Winter Goals

Good morning, happy winter!

Iโ€™ve never been good at new yearโ€™s resolutions, mainly because by July of whatever year Iโ€™ve made the goals Iโ€™ve already forgotten what they were. So I decided a while back that I was going to do seasonal goals. So here we go!

Winter Goals

Lose 15lbs and 7% body fat

No explanation required, weโ€™re still doing a fitness thing here even if I have fallen behind. 175lbs & 29% are the numbers I’m aiming for.

 

Write the first draft of my novel

Itโ€™s been in the works for a very very long time and I think I have everything I need to write a complete draft, everything except the will power that is.

 

Stop biting my nails

Surely 3 months is long enough to kick that habit, right?

 

Read at least three books

I donโ€™t do this enough.

 

Do at least two charcoal drawings

I have an art degree, but you’d never know by the amount of art I make.

 


I think seasonal goals will be great not only for mindset but also for practicality! These are all things that I want to do, of course, but I tailored these goals to be winter specific. I also want to walk our husky more often and kayak and hike, but if I decide on those goals in January when itโ€™s 16 degrees and weโ€™re buried in Kentucky ice, how will I get excited about those goals again in May?

I need to do things immediately or I lose interest.

The fact that I wonโ€™t be writing on my novel as soon as I close this blog will undoubtedly make me think twice about that goal when I do sit down to write. But no matter, theyโ€™re written in the blog and so they shall be.

Alrighty, thatโ€™s all!

If you have any goals that you donโ€™t want to put off until the ball drops, tell me about them! Letโ€™s make seasonal goals a thing. Can we do that? Is that legal?

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I really do.

Welcome to my diary

Itโ€™s amazing how quickly you can fall into a bad habit. Itโ€™s day 19 of my daily blogging and Iโ€™ve already caught myself only writing blogs that give advice or have a clear defined point to them.

But the thing is,

this is my personal website and essentially my daily journal. Iโ€™m not selling anything, Iโ€™m not marketing myself as some sort of guru, Iโ€™m just out here living my life. My intention for this blog is to document my life so years from now I can go back and read aboutโ€ฆ myselfโ€ฆ oh wow, how narcissistic, Emily.

Thatโ€™s why I initially started by documenting โ€œsomething I couldnโ€™t stop thinking about from yesterdayโ€ on my first couple blogs. That didnโ€™t really work because all of my days run together as one long existence. But nonetheless, I would still like to daily blog.

That all being said, sometimes my blogs will be short and sweet and uninteresting.

Future readers:

I wanted to inform all of you that when you come across a post like this itโ€™s most likely because Iโ€™m half asleep sitting on my recliner at 6am writing my stream of (semi)conscience thoughts.

Future Emily:

Youโ€™re welcome girl, this is for you. Hang in there.

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Hey future me, have you figured out what this contraption is yet?